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Post by Trent Lawless on Nov 1, 2006 10:32:10 GMT -5
I think if you have any hopes of the relationship going anywhere long-term, it has to come up as soon as reasonable. It may have been a little easier for me with my wife because I could always say I did the writing for the newsletter for the game (this is pre-CPC 2112) and it may have looked a little less uncool that way. Honestly I don't remember exactly how it came up between us, but if she hadn't been all right with my devoting some of my free time to it, we may not have gotten to 7 years marriage this past September. If you're very devoted to something, anything, whether it's a dice-game or a particular sports team or whatever, if the person you want to be with goes beyond the stage of benign indifference to varying degrees of hostility, it's a deal-breaker to me.
So she doesn't play and doesn't want to, but she likes hearing my stories about it, at least.
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Post by bmurderh8s on Nov 1, 2006 11:02:41 GMT -5
I think if you have any hopes of the relationship going anywhere long-term, it has to come up as soon as reasonable. It may have been a little easier for me with my wife because I could always say I did the writing for the newsletter for the game (this is pre-CPC 2112) and it may have looked a little less uncool that way. Honestly I don't remember exactly how it came up between us, but if she hadn't been all right with my devoting some of my free time to it, we may not have gotten to 7 years marriage this past September. If you're very devoted to something, anything, whether it's a dice-game or a particular sports team or whatever, if the person you want to be with goes beyond the stage of benign indifference to varying degrees of hostility, it's a deal-breaker to me. So she doesn't play and doesn't want to, but she likes hearing my stories about it, at least. It's not exactly something you bring up in your first ever conversation. it's more of something that you bring up off handed after you've been with the person for a bit. It's less damaging I think if you've been with the person for a while and they've come to like you for you. So the fact that you play a card and dice wrestling game won't weigh on them so much. For the girlfriends I've had that actually were aware of the game, it's never caused a problem. Mainly because the game didnd't and still doesn't consume my life. A few of them were even slightly interested in the game. But I prefer to keep my lovelife and COTG life seperate. Works better that way I think. |
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Post by bmurderh8s on Nov 1, 2006 11:08:02 GMT -5
Come to think of it Mark, I think writting a newsletter for the game might actually be worse then just playing. ;D
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Post by Tournament Master on Nov 1, 2006 11:13:28 GMT -5
Mark hit the key point right on the head. If you are going to have a serious relationship withe someone they have to accept you for you. Sure my wife may not be interested with playing COTG regularly, but she likes that I have a passion for something that peaks my creativity. My previous long term girlfriend went from indifference to hostility towards me playing the game, which by itself wasn't the reason we broke up, but was a symptom of a bigger problem. A week after we broke up I went to my first G-con, and life was much better.  I had first told my current wife went we were dating that my guilty pleasure was pro wrestling, and she in turned told me her guilty pleasure was Xena Warrior Princess. Eventually I told her about COTG and she didn't run away screaming, but instead thought it was cool that I had such a long running hobby. That was the beginning to discovering a close, supporting relationship that we have now. Heck, she looks forward to watching Raw with me on a weekly basis and even plays out some CPC matches with me...as long as she is Gila. I'm not saying that every girl will be that cool, but if you want a relationship to work, lying and hiding part of yourself is not going to help. Next on Dr. Phil...Inter-species dating with Swarm and She-Devil. |
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Post by gwffantrav on Nov 1, 2006 11:21:17 GMT -5
Like I tell my wife Kristen...would she rather for me to be sitting next to her rolling my dice or hanging out with the old party buddies on the weekends...  Ohh, but don't get her wrong, she loves to make fun of it. Telling all of her teaching buddies about her husband's nerd hobby! I still remember he reaction to GCon 04 |
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Post by traviz on Nov 1, 2006 11:32:07 GMT -5
Like I tell my girlfriend Kristen...as long as I'm giving you that sweet,sweet loving, it's all good.
Seriously, she's got her own issues and as long as I deal with hers, she can deal with me and my ficticious wrestling federation.
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Post by WTIC on Nov 1, 2006 11:59:30 GMT -5
And I don't think many would be impressed if I told them that King Kong Bundy and Buff Bagwell played it either. Any other celebrities? Maybe K-Fed plays. Edit: I should probably be banned for that.   ;D 
Anyway, great babe, but gimme Rachael Leigh Cook or Christina Applegate plzz... |
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Post by Darth Turkish on Nov 1, 2006 13:06:44 GMT -5
It was never an issue for my wife. She knew I liked comics and Star Wars and wrestling from the get go. If it was an issue, she would not be my wife.
Hell, her parents were hippies. If I have to put up with that, she can put up with my futuristic dice wrestling game.
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Post by GOODZILLA on Nov 1, 2006 13:40:55 GMT -5
Well my latest ex-girlfriend walked in on me one night ...
(this story could take a tragic turn for the worst right here, but I continue ...)
... anyway, she walked in on me when I had all my COTG cards scattered everywhere. I was sitting at the computer working on some bootlegs and I remember her saying "What the hell are you doing!?" So I had no choice but to explain it to her.
And she was just like "oh, whatever" and went back to watching The Bachelor. She loved me though and there was nothing that could have changed that. (Except me dumping her months later)
I mean, come on, I was sitting in a room surrounded by futuristic wrestling cards and on my computer screen I am making my own wrestling bootleg cards of the Masters of the Universe.
If that doesn't send a girl running and screaming I don't know what does.
Nor do I care lol.
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Post by Wildfire on Nov 1, 2006 17:26:00 GMT -5
My wife really doesn't like wrestling, so she's never had much intrest in CoTG, she occassionally (like every 6 months or so) says something like "So what are you writing down exactly" and usually it takes about 45 seconds for her eyes to glaze over while I explain I think my following wrestling is on par with her watching British soap operas. |
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Post by Trent Lawless on Nov 1, 2006 19:45:51 GMT -5
she occassionally (like every 6 months or so) says something like "So what are you writing down exactly" and usually it takes about 45 seconds for her eyes to glaze over while I explain I'm with you there. Jen takes about 33 1/2 seconds before the eye-glaze, though. We should have a contest someday. |
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